Sunday, December 9, 2012

Sacred Regard – The Curative For Drama

Recently in a blog post an individual made some untrue and inflammatory statements about my actions and beliefs. Friends rallied around and denounced these statements. While I do appreciate having friends who understand my intent and direct form of communication their defense was unnecessary.

As a Pagan I am unable to view those with whom I disagree or have conflict with as “the other” outside of my community. In fact these individuals challenge me and call me to self-reflection and growth. I know you may be thinking “ Yes, but what about those who are blatantly mean, dishonest or hurtful?  Sure their statements can be hurtful, but their reality belongs to them and deserves to be heard just as mine does.

In my path the deities I worship are fallible, make mistakes and provide a moral guide for my life. Would I hold them in less esteem because they make mistakes or behave badly?  Of course not, I hold them in what I call “Sacred Regard” as teachers, mentors and examples of how complicated existence is. Their seeming “humanity” endears me to them and indeed the concept of the divine its self.

This concept also holds true for those who behave in ways I find distasteful in the community. Each, possessing the spark of the Goddess within, teaches great lessons and allows me to clarify my practice and relationship with the Goddess. These individuals are held in the same "Sacred Regard” as are the Deities I follow. It is a little hard to develop resentment towards those whom you consider to hold the divine within them.

So the next time someone rubs you the wrong way or speaks in a hurtful manor, try remembering that they too are part of the divinely inspired dance of life and apply a little of my favorite metaphorical salve called “Sacred Regard”


Deirdre Hebert said...
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Deirdre Hebert said...

Wasn't happy with the way my first reply sounded, so after more thought ...
Bill Wilson said "Pain is the touch-stone of all spiritual growth", and certainly, at times, the words others direct at us can cause pain. Likewise, so can words directed at those we esteem.
Those words though, can be likened to large rocks, and that pain like water in a puddle or a pond - when we drop those rocks, there is a good chance that we'll get wet as well.
I'm not perfect - there are times that I have said things I later regret.Maybe we all go through that phase. I hope that I'm learning to sow more peace than discord. You are one of the people that I hold in regard. Another is Bishop Gene Robinson. I heard him speak once and someone asked him how he handles it when people verbally confront him. He said that what matters most is that he treats everyone with respect. I'm still trying to learn that lesson.
I think that if I've learned anything from this present kerfuffle, it's that almost anything can be used to tear our community down. When we stake out turf, when we begin to attack others without regard to the larger community, we damage our entire world. But the Pagan community is not a Utopia - it is made of individuals with each our own personalities.
We will have differences - we will find people that we don't like, people in whose company we don't wish to be. And there will be times that two people we like don't like each other. Sometimes the word thing we can do is take sides.

Pagan In Paradise said...

Deirdre, Thank you for your well stated thoughts. Just as an insight I consider Sacred Regard as a key component in the "Blessed Community" concept that T. Thorn Coil often speaks about. I have know idea what she would think about, but it is an insight that grew out of her teachings.

Oriana said...

In the light of us all making mistakes...I normally try not to correct misspellings. Darn autocorrect, right? But in this case may I point out that Thorn's last name is spelled COYLE.

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