Tuesday, March 3, 2015

Rejecting The Culture of Respectability, New Pagan Leadership

It has been a tumultuous few weeks in the evolution of our collective Pagan community, discussions about multiple uncomfortable issues have been processed both online and in local face to face conversations.  What strikes me most profoundly about these conversations is the incredible eloquence, insight and collective clarity of vision of what many have been calling “Young Pagans” 

Let me just briefly mention that this label of “Young Pagans” is, in my opinion, a misnomer.  Clearly when we are discussing these individuals it is our Elder centric culture that labels everyone under 45 as “young leaders”.  

Over and over I have witnessed “Elders” explain the realities of a diverse group of Pagan micro communities to these “Young Pagans” seeking change.  Essentially, the impression I get is of an established community defending what they have built and seeking to stave off the reality that it is these new Pagan Leaders that are manifesting real change that will ensure the flourishing of our collective communities.

These “new leaders” speak their truth directly; they have little concern for what Jason Thomas Pitzl, calls the “Culture of Respectability” that has manifested in our community. Their actions reflect the fact that a static community will enter a period of entropy if it does not continue to manifest positive social change, a sense of collective community and direct honest confrontation of the issues that infect our collective tribes.

Frankly, I am impressed with their passion, their willingness to proclaim an enlightened viewpoint with out regard to who it might offend.  These so-called “Young Pagans” are the Pagan movement; they have transcended the accomplishments and structures built by the proceeding generation.

 Our communities' Eders laid the foundations of their work, something they all deserve respect for.  Today however, these same Elders seem unable to embrace the reality that they carry many attitudes and ideas that if allowed to prevail will begin to eat away at the very community they so cherish.

Simply stated, the views, ideas and actions that I most respect in our community are all coming from this new generation of Pagans who will not tolerate a community which bases its’ actions on a culture of respectability. The widespread ethic of “play nice” that resulted from the “witch wars” that occurred during the formative years of our community has become an insidious barrier to real discussion and the evolution of our community.

While I am always cautious to engage the word “leaders”, I do believe that the current people who I respect  the most for their leadership abilities are from these emerging generations.  It seems to me that it is time for established Elders to pass the responsibility of leadership to these individuals and stop framing them as “young leaders”.  They are the best of us, willing and able to take our community into a future that is more inclusive and reflective of our Pagan values.

We need our Elders for their wisdom, knowledge and temperance. They command our respect, yet the time comes when actively steering our community into the future should be left to those who have a clearer view of the future rather than the past.

It is my intent to focus what limited voice I have on ensuring that these passionate, focused and effective Pagans are encouraged to continue steering our community forward in the direction of their collective vision of a healthy, dynamic and inclusive community

Wednesday, February 25, 2015


Over the past few weeks I have witnessed the demonization of Covenant of the Goddess as a result of the epic fail of the National Board’s response the the #BlackLivesMatter movement.  The discourse has degenerated into the use of a broad brush painting the organization as racist, I am saddened and disgusted that our community seems unable to hold accountable those who failed in their leadership rolls while painting the many great members of CoG with the same broad brush.

Let me be clear, I am a huge supporter of many of the Local Councils of CoG. Over the years,  I have developed a deep respect for the work the Local Councils and their members do.  The idea that they are responsible for the insensitive and hurtful statements of the National Board is unreasonable and toxic to our community.

Admittedly, the National Boards actions in engaging in censorship and attacking their critics contributed to this problem.  When they chose to paint the criticisms as an attack on the entire covenant many bought their position and framed the issue as having to do with the entire membership.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  I urge the community to examine their response to this situation and continue to support the work of the local councils; their efforts in interfaith, feeding the hungry and fighting for social justice deserve our respect, not a broad brush stroke coating them with the stain of the actions of others.

The very idea that half a dozen members of the National Board of this revered organization could be so clueless as to the state of social justice in our nation that they could make such a statement is alarming.  The National First Officer and the Public Information Officer are the voices of the national board, they failed, they are responsible and they should resign.  Lets hold those accountable as having a responsibility to take the consequences for there actions.

I would like to believe that Pagans have the insight to see the nuances of this situation.  The craft is about personal responsibility, not burning entire organizations at the stake due to the actions of the few.

As a national solitary,  I recently let my membership in CoG expire, the National Board is responsible for representing me as a member of CoG and I did not feel their actions reflected my values.  Had I been a member of a Local Council, where all the great work of the covenant takes place,  I would have remained a member of  CoG.

For years many respected Elders of CoG have explained to me that they do not become involved in national CoG due to the political infighting and back room deals that take place. I myself, over the past four years adhered to this ethic, it was my personal moral failing that I did so.  If I am a member of an organization I have a responsibility to attempt to change things, I did not and I regret it, as I am sure other Elders in the community do also.

Here is wishing that collectively the great group of Local Councils of CoG have the courage to retake the leadership of this storied Pagan organization, I wish them luck in their endeavor.

#Black Lives Matter

Thursday, February 19, 2015

Ten Thousand Pagan Voices Confronting Racism

Where does one start when reviewing a month long chapter of their life that was intensely painful, personal and enlightening?  My experience of our community over the last few weeks is heartbreaking.  In seeking social justice there is often a price to pay, this I knew, but I was floored by how our blessed community can react to subjects that call us to look at ourselves.

In calling out adverse racism where I saw it, I took the only course of action that would allow me to sleep with the knowledge that I was acting as the Goddess leads me.  I have been threatened, called names, harassed via email and the telephone, painted as a heretic and generally demonized by members of my own community.  Long-standing friendships have been lost; organizations I fully supported for years have deemed me a destructive force.  Yes, I am wounded, saddened, and have shed many tears.

I knew going in that those who dare to even speak a measure of truth to power are subject to being attacked, branded as a whistle blower and made the focus of efforts to distract people from the issues raised.  I have watched governments; organizations and societies do this over and over.  Yet deep inside of me I was hopeful that our blessed community is beyond such actions, quietly I suspected that while such a response would come it would not have support among Pagans. I was wrong, I am disappointed.

Here is the thing, I WOULD DO IT AGAIN!, yes that was a shout. Recent events within our collective community reflect the state of affairs within Pagandom; racism is alive and well, it exists in ourselves, in those who stand next to us in circle, at our conventions and within our ritual practices. 

It has been fifty years since the march in Selma and yet here we still are struggling with even making Pagan spaces safe for people of color. We have a responsibility to support our brothers and sisters of color in our community; indeed we have no community unless we rise to this challenge.

Can I promise that if you speak up there will be no price to pay, clearly not, yet to abdicate our responsibility to stand for what is right would be to drive a stake in the heart of our communities’ values.

Today I ask my fellow Pagans of privilege, join together; manifest 10,000 voices calling for our community to listen to the experiences of Pagans of Color.  If we must pay a price for our stand, so be it, our hurts, pains and losses will add up to little in comparison to the experiences of our brothers and sisters of color.

10,000 voices speaking up, not over, calling our community to hear the pain, the sadness and the fears of our brothers and sisters can manifest real change that will allow us to proceed as a community committed to walking our talk, living our values and setting an example for future generations that we are more than the sum of our collective traditions.

Here is my name, who will join me in manifesting 10,000 voices by adding theirs and sharing this call to action!

Peter Dybing

Tuesday, February 3, 2015

Pagan Consensus And The Tyranny Of The Minority

Recent events within the Pagan community have driven me to examine the structure of Pagan organizations and how these configurations tend to affect the ability of those participating to embrace social justice in the wider community.

It has been a general principle in our community that organizations embracing the governing model of consensus are seeking to hear the voices of everyone, honoring their views and finding a way to move forward with the approval of all involved.

In the case of small organizations or groups that have the ability for everyone to meet face-to-face the model works well and expresses our collective desire to honor each participants individual relationship with the divine.

In the case of large organizations, however, the process can be usurped by small groups of people seeking control and undo influence.  Organizational leaders are left with the reality that the views of fringe groups within the membership are able to derail progress and leave the organization Mora bound, unable to represent the views of the vast majority of the membership.

Peace at all costs becomes the mantra of these organizations.  Servant leaders of these groups are left to defend organizational lack of action as an “acceptable” consequence of the consensus process.  Even more, individuals who have the resources to attend national meetings develop undue influence over the group, while hiding under the cover of representing those not present via a paperwork process that pretends that all have a voice.

Individuals with years of investment in the organizational culture use past consensus decisions as powerful weapons to bludgeon those seeking change with.  They somehow have come to believe that past decisions, during a time of different circumstances, are sacrosanct statements reflecting some divine insight.

The position that all behavior, all lack of action is somehow justified by institutional history and past consensus becomes toxic to the organizations ability to move forward. Essentially, a TYRANNY OF THE MINORITY is established.

As we move forward as a community, it is my hope that organizations will examine these issues.  There is a place for consensus, in small regional groups that have the ability to truly discuss issues with everyone present.  Yet, as a community we must be willing to examine what is not working and manifest a process that does not embolden those expressing adverse discrimination to take hold of our cherished institutions.

There are many great people doing great work in our national organizations. The call here is not to trash our systems of organization but be willing to examine where they are broken in the light of day, with transparency and compassion.

Monday, January 26, 2015

Selma’s LBJ, A Metaphor For You And Me

The recent uproar over the portrayal of Lyndon Johnson in the movie Selma is quite enlightening.  Staffers at the LBK Presidential Library are defending the former presidents reputation as a hero of civil rights.  Their objection surrounds the movie painting LBJ as a reluctant ally at best.

If we really examine the man and his motivations we can see that he possessed great insight and vast blind spots in terms of racial justice.  He stood as the leader of this nation reflecting the values that white Americans held at the time. 

It is in this honest assessment that we can see our selves; as white Americans we have accomplished much in recognizing the abhorrent affects of racism.  Yet, this is not where we started.  Just as in this most recent portrayal, we have gradually evolved in our understanding of how insidious prejudice can be.

As we move forward we embrace an ever-expanding concept of social justice, spurred on by our exposure to the inequities in our world.  For those of us over forty, for example, can we honestly say that our views and understanding of transgender rights have remained static over the last 20 years?  For most, the answer is clearly NO. We have moved from ignorance of the issue, to acknowledgement and beyond to embracing social change via activism.

The real issue with the LBJ portrayal is that unconsciously we desire to believe the myth that a white man was a hero of the civil rights movement.  Was he? well kind of, but he did not start as a hero, he had to be confronted, informed and challenged.  There in is the rub; all of us need to be willing to confront our attitudes, ideas and actions if we are to manifest social justice in our time.

Those seeking a white wash of LBJ into an instigator of the civil rights movement are unconsciously expressing a desire to reframe history into a box that white privilege fits into.   I admire LBJ for his ability to evolve his views and take action once he understood the magnitude of the situation.  He evolved, may we all follow his example and continue to do so also.   The attempted reframing of the discussion of the movie to be about the actions of a white President instead of the bravery of the people of Selma and MKL is distasteful at best. Yet there are lessons about our own privilege to be gleaned from the conversation.

Friday, January 2, 2015

#LivesMatter, JUST STOP!

So what do we do when activists usurp an incredibly effective social justice action in order to promote their own worthy causes.   How do we call out those we agree with in principle on their un intended devaluation and destruction of a historic social justice movement?

These are the questions I have been pondering over the past few days as I have observed hash tags that read:

#translivesmatter, #redlivesmatter, #alllivesmatter, #girlslivesmatter, and on and on.

There is no doubt that all the tags manifested above are intended to support great causes. Each author unaware that by appropriating the “lives matter” narrative they are contributing to diluting the important message of the #BlackLivesMatter movement.

In essence this situation is manifesting competition for attention, national focus and political support.  As an activist I know well the temptation to copy an effective action in support of the causes I work for.  Yet I recognize that any attempt to start a #PaganLivesMatter statement would just be an expression of my privilege and result in further marginalizing the Black Lives Matter movement.

So my fellow progressives who have usurped the Black Lives Matter movement with your own statements, PLEASE JUST STOP!

Stop now, withdraw your posts, support real change, don’t be part of the effort to white wash this historic opportunity for real change.  Yes I agree with your causes, however your actions are eroding the possibility for real change. Please, I say again JUST STOP IT!

Thursday, December 25, 2014

A Very Merry Christmas, Pagans Included!

In Denver the gray clouds are rolling in, there is a calm preceding the impending storm.  At my in-laws home all is draped in the festive colors of the season. Voices are seemingly hushed in deference to the holiday.  Aromas swirl around me as we prepare for the coming meal.  The faces of extended family yet to arrive manifest an inner smile.  I am comforted in my memories of holidays past.  There are a plethora of sweat emotional visions that emerge from my unconscious, I am awash in the tradition of my ancestors and I find myself in the Christmas Sprit.

Yes, I am through and through a Pagan, yet in this day,  I find a spiritual silence and inner calm that emerges at no other time of the year.  A brief trip to the gas station reminds me of the absence of the bustle of everyday life.  On empty streets the few cars move with suppressed urgency as if the occupants are moving towards the sure embrace of love, joy and peace.

If it is the energy of the Christians’ Christ that manages to urge our culture to suspend the mad rush that is life; then I am grateful to their Christ beyond words.  The sense that humanity is taking a day off from all the conflict, debate and turmoil comforts me; It enriches me with the hope that one day the blessed people of the earth will come together and evolve past the lines that divide us.

So today, I am grateful for my Christian friends who welcome me as I participate in the spirit of the day. The spiritual energy of millions focused on family, joy and love cannot be ignored.  While our beliefs differ I am in awe of the peaceful energy raised on this day.

So yes I am wishing you a merry Christmas and inviting all my Pagan friends to bathe in the spirit of your holiday, we are blessed!

Friday, December 19, 2014

Solstice Greetings To My Readers World Wide!

Happy Winter Solstice, in darkness may you cherish the light that burns inside your heart!

Glad vintersolhverv, I mørke kan du værner om lys, der brænder inde i dit hjerte!

Щасливий день зимового сонцестояння, В темряві може ви дорожите світло, яке горить у вашому серці!


Glückliche Winter-Sonnenwende, Bei Dunkelheit können Sie das Licht, das in deinem Herzen brennt schätzen!

Szczęśliwa Przesilenie zimowe, W ciemności można kochać światło, które płonie w twoim sercu!

Счастливый день зимнего солнцестояния, В темноте может вы дорожите свет, который горит в вашем сердце!

Solstice d'hiver heureux, Dans l'obscurité peut te chérir la lumière qui brûle dans votre cœur!

Tuesday, December 16, 2014

A Firefighter Speaks To The Police

Over and over I hear my friends that are police officers lament the current “attack” on the reputations of police officers.  Each is personally offended that officers are being painted in such a bad light.  Each pointing out all the good they are doing in the word. So let me just say, yes I know that most officers are great people attempting to make a difference in the world.

Dear Police Officers,

The problems you are facing are not a public relations issue. Members of the public have viewed literally dozens of videos of police abusing citizens over the past few weeks.  Ignoring the problem only makes the public think you are somehow involved. The time has come to tear down the ”blue wall of silence” within police culture that leads officers to always defend the actions of the police.  While you may be a good cop, if you defend officers or remain silent about those who engage in violence against the population, you are also part of the problem.

The public can see from the media that there is a real problem and no amount of police PR videos showing police saving cute kittens is going to make this problem go away.  Our community needs our honorable officers to stand up and make clear that no longer will the cultural norm of supporting officers no matter what stand.  It is your job to serve and protect.

Officers all over the country have decided that the police are qualified to sit in judgment, determine guilt and dispense punishment.  Such actions are criminal; our system provides that the courts serve that role.  If you want the populace to place your profession among the honorable pursuits, then you must act with honor at all times when in uniform. You are the solution to the current crisis; your ability to return to believing that even officers are subject to our laws must be made clear.

The fact that you personally would never assault a suspect does not release you from responsibility.  You must also move forward and hold your co-workers accountable.  If you do not begin the process of removing the bricks that make up the “blue wall of silence” your efforts to have your profession once again respected will fall on deaf ears.

Act now for justice, for accountability, for building a new view of policing that honors those you are sworn to protect.

Peter Dybing
Chief Officer

Reposted from my original post on Face Book at a friends suggestion.

Thursday, December 11, 2014

Civil Rights Credentials - I Am Over It

Over the last few weeks I have had many conversations with individuals proclaiming that the current manifestation of “Black Lives Matter” needs to be adjusted: white washed into a broader more inclusive theme.  They further proclaim that the violence they are seeing in the media needs to be addressed.

As I speak to these individuals they become offended when pressed on how their views, if adopted, will support the current oppressive system.  Many resort to stating something like “Don’t tell me about civil rights, I was there in 1969 when”

Well, frankly let me tell you I DON”T GIVE A @#*#% about your civil rights credentials. If you stand now with the oppressor through your calls for non-action you are part of the problem.

Have you really forgotten the narrative the national media used to suppress your actions all those years ago?

Have you really become so comfortable in your privileged lives that you cannot see that the current protests are the next step in achieving what you were seeking all those years ago?

Do you really see the current movement as something unrelated to the broader effort for equality in our nation?

Have you slipped into viewing your historic participation as being involved in the “real civil rights movement?

What is happening today is “THE REAL CIVIL RIGHTS MOVEMENT”

Get on board or risk loosing the moral authority that you dearly covet because “you were there when”.   If you continue to seek to smooth over what makes you uncomfortable, you are no different than the very oppressors you opposed in the past.

Wake up, we need our elders to be engaged, willing to listen, able to see that the protests happening now are an expression of the values they proclaimed when they marched in their youth.



Tuesday, December 9, 2014

Ten Pagans Who Made A Difference in 2014

Every year this list comes out listing 10 Pagans who I highly respect for their service to the Pagan Community.  Each year as the author I strive to list those individuals who I believe have had the most impact on our community.  The list is subjective, yet I strive to not only list those who I “like” or have relationships with, but instead those whose contributions are beyond question.  So here is my annual list.  Who would be on your list? Feel free to comment!


Phaedra Bonewits

Anyone who follows Pagan social media will be aware of the voice of Phaedra Bonewits.  Over the course of this year I have seen many examples of her wisdom, grace and willingness to participate in important and sometimes divisive conversations.  She makes this list because her voice is always the voice of the wise elder, calling me to deeper contemplation and insight.  I value our Pagan elders and believe that Phaedra stands as a great example of what an elder should be in our community.


Sharon Knight

Too many years have gone by without this list featuring a Pagan musician. Music feeds an inner need for joyful expression and represents an important aspect of our developing Pagan culture.  This is music that moves me as a Pagan and I am also in deep awe of her talent and willingness to participate in the community.  Sharon Knights’ long-term contributions to our community deserve recognition and make her a Pagan who belongs on this list of top ten Pagans.


Christine Hoff Kraemer

Paganism is all about honoring diversity. Christine’s’ efforts as the Managing Editor of the Pagan Portal at Patheos are a deep reflection of this diversity.  By making room for more diverse voices at Patheos she has deeply influenced my personal awareness of Pagan diversity.  Further, her ability to do so without being drawn into the various “eruptions” in the world of Pagan blogging establishes her as an incredibly talented editor and leader within our community.  I am thrilled to have her on this years list.


Erick DuPree

Trust in a Pagan leader can often be determined via their willingness to publicly share their personal process and struggles.  If there is currently a voice in the Pagan community that best represents this principle of authenticity it is Eric.  His compassion based process has had a major impact on both my personal practice and on many other Pagans I know.  Eric’s profound, honest and compassion based insights have earned him a place among the Pagans who made a difference in 2014


Sam Webster

Sam has long been an important voice in our community. His efforts this year in providing leadership with the Pantheon Foundation are benefiting the entire community.  Suddenly significant efforts in the community have the ability to move forward with accountability, support and wise counsel.  Building Pagan infrastructure that lasts has always been challenging.  Sam’s’ efforts may well turn out to be one of the most significant developments within our community in many years.  Sam I congratulate you for your real world efforts and willingness to do the hard work within our community.


Crystal Blanton

No list of Pagans who made a difference in 2014 would be complete without the presence of Crystal Blanton.  Her contributions to the communities understanding of social justice issues cannot be overstated. She leads the hard conversations that call all of us to a deeper understanding of the experiences of people of color in our community.  While we don’t always agree, I am in awe of her passion, commitment and willingness to engage in manifesting a community where diversity is our strength.  Her tireless efforts place her squarely on this list of Pagans who made a difference in 2014.


Cara Schulz

Wow, the list is long if one intends to cover Cara’s contributions to Paganism. This year I have been most impressed with her run for City Council.  By believing that Pagans have a place in government and putting that belief into practice Cara demonstrated to all Pagans that we have arrived at the doorstep of representative government. Cara’s run for office stands as an example of a community member “walking their talk” in 2014.  In addition, her grace and wise actions in response to an individual attempting to make her beliefs an issue in the race represent the application of wisdom and compassion in the face of hatred.  Cara, frankly, you impress me!

Jason from The Wild Hunt

There is now way to measure the contributions Jason has made to our community.  This year I was impressed in how Jason handled the transitions at the Wild Hunt.  For many years the community has had concerns about succession planning for major Pagan Organizations.  Jason, to his credit, was able though skill and wisdom, to establish a road map for succession.  Pagan organizations take note, it is this kind of fore thought and planning that insures the health of our community for decades to come.  Please join me in thanking Jason for his leadership, skills and service to our community.  If there were such a thing as a Pagan Hero, I would nominate Jason for the honor!


Ivo Dominguez Jr.

In activism, it is always tempting to move from one popular cause to another as time passes.  Few individuals have the dogged determination to take on a project that many see as “undoable”.  Ivo has done just that, with his unwavering efforts in manifesting the New Alexandrian Library.  This is no small task, building real infrastructure that will last for generations.   In this library a legacy has been manifested for Pagans around the world.  It is an outstanding accomplishment that will benefit the entire community.  Let me also say that there were many people involved in these efforts, but being a list of “Ten Pagans” Ivo gets the nod for this effort.  I suspect he will share the recognition around widely.   The Pagan community will be filled with gratitude of their own for decades to come.

And at the number spot on the list of Ten Pagans Who Made a Difference in 2014 is:


Courtney Weber

Rarely is there a voice in our community that calls me to a deep place in considering the very foundations of the Paganism I believe in; Courtney Weber has such a voice. Her passionate environmental participation has deeply called me to be grounded in the earth and the need to protect that from which I sprang.  Intelligent, eloquent, focused and authentic are a few words that express how I feel when engaging with her.  Pagans would be well advised to pay attention to this voice among us.  Simply stated, I believe her to be the best of what we have to offer as a community.  It is my hope her passionate participation continues for decades.

So feel free to post your own list of Pagans you think are doing great things. We have many great community members!

In Her Service,


Saturday, December 6, 2014

I Can’t Breathe!

Activist around the country are energized.  An opportunity has arisen to affect true change in our culture that devalues and marginalizes people of color.   Inside we are all holding our collective breath and praying that this issue will stand, the American people will not once again turn away in boredom or even worse their collective need to not face the injustice that permeates our culture.

We are protesting, creating face book memes, confronting outright racism on line and calling out white privilege where it exists.  Our thoughts are dominated with the problems within our over culture and sadly in our own communities.

The potential for burn out is real, each day we face hateful comments, privilege in its grossest manifestations, yet we engage.  Emotionally the task is daunting, painful and frustrating.  The temptation is strong to disengage for our own sanity.  It is a strange world where we activists would be pleased to just have a day that we can spend, once again being amused at cute animals on face book.

Today I ask activists to set some time away for them selves, enjoy family and friends, recharge, feed your spirit with what is wonderful and compassionate in the world.  Do this not because you are tired of the conflict but because you recognize the need to disengage in order to re-engage.  Collectively this effort must continue, we must learn to engage in radical acts of self-care if we are to have the temperance to continue.

Today we have a New Civil Rights movement, led by people of color demanding justice that goes beyond individual cases and calls our nation to action in addressing systematic racism. The solutions will not emerge if we, who sound the call to action, become burned out

I urge you to play with your kids, to pray, to enjoy what is right in the world, recharge and join activists around the country in making sure that this drive for social justice is sustainable.

Monday, November 17, 2014


Well,  it has been some time since our faith system has had to choose if we are going to respond when organized Internet Trolls cast their hooks baited with lies and inflammatory statements.  Over the last few weeks the  “Disciples of the New Dawn” have posted some of the most hyperbolic insanity we have ever witnessed by individuals attempting to stir the pot of hatred and misinformation.

Let’s be clear, these posts are pure troll behavior. There is extensive research making it clear that people who engage in such behaviors have sadistic personalities. They deliberately seek to inflame and cause emotional distress.  Once they have stirred the pot they sit back can feed upon the emotional reactions that in their sick little world represents the success of their action.

Today lets share with the entire community a commitment to the below principle:

Each time a community member engages these people their twisted little minds are nourished by our revulsion.  As a community, lets starve these trolls and hope that their discomfort prompts them to get the physiological help they so desperately need.

Please share this call to unified non-action and deprive these individuals of the attention they seek. If you feel you must take action, report their posts to Face Book, but do not comment on, share or repost their dribble, when we do engage we support their twisted feeding frenzy.

May the Goddess, in her compassion heal these individuals need for causing emotional  damage.

Friday, November 14, 2014

Leaving Wicca With Warm Memories And Regrets

“Gender binary, what are you some kind of left wing hippy”

This was the response when I confronted a co-worker for telling a Trans Woman that  “you are a man, you can’t be here you have a penis”.  The entire situation saddened me and again got me to thinking about confronting the black and white thinking that is perpetuated around gender.

On many levels I often take refuge in my spiritual community, here are individuals who understand, are willing to confront old warn out ideas and behaviors.  When I thought about it, however, I was reminded of how uncomfortable I have been during the last few years when I attend a ritual and witness the gender binary on full display within a sacred context.

Dozens of conversations have been held among well meaning members of the Wicca community about this issue.  Individuals profess an understanding of gender equality, agreement is shared all around and NOTHING CHANGES!

It is a sad day when my emerging, evolving, and open hearted spiritual path becomes so tied to its’ dogma and the “we have always done it this way” ethic that in practice their actions continue to disrespect community members who identify with many of the other manifestations of gender identity.

My issue with this situation has become more than problematic; it has become a situation where I perceive my own spiritual path as an obstruction in seeking social justice.  As a result I have come to a place where I am no longer able to embrace Wicca as my spiritual home.

Yes I remain a Neo Pagan, I remain a Witch, and I continue to worship the Goddess.  What I can no longer do is support the institutional dogma of a religion that refuses to evolve even when the members acknowledge the need for change.  This is dogma that violates the precious “Do No Harm” principle that is central to my beliefs.

Over the last few years,  I have paid attention to the pain on the faces of respected community members when they encounter this narrow interpretation of gender in ritual.  They generally remain respectful, as do I in ritual.  It is time however, for me to grow, evolve, change and stop participating in sacred spaces that are stuck in the harmful dogma of the past.  I love my Wiccan friends and will always gladly invite them into the circles I participate in, I will however no longer lend my sacred energy to a belief system that as a whole refuses to evolve.

Growth is painful, this is painful, I honor my spiritual past, I will miss the profoundly moving rituals, yet I cannot refuse to acknowledge the need to move forward un encumbered with actions that harm my many friends who identify as manifestations of the wonderfully diverse pool of gender identities.

For more on this issue see this guest post from a friend: